Who's to Blame

“Who stops us from being free? We blame the government, we blame the weather, we blame our parents, we blame religion, we blame God. Who really stops us from being free? We stop ourselves.”¹ The question that come up is “how is it that I stop me from being free?” One reason is we accepted “domestication” first we let adult tell us how, what, when and where to do anything and everything. As a child we are free thinker and decide what is good for us, we are then redirected toward what others think is good for us and from that time it is a constant battle until eventually we conform and go with someone else’s flow not ours.
It seems that only those that keep their independence are able to create exactly what they want, the rest they are going according to someone’s view of what their freedom is. This is a mind blowing thought. Allowing others to design our life. Of course there is a difference between acquiring an education and being forced into one. When we decide to submit to someone’s view for learning purpose we still maintain our own freedom and submit for a time and then resume our own understanding and we progress from that point, as we adopt what is good for us and our purpose.
The purpose of the warrior (the ideal person in the Toltec tradition) is to transcend social conditioning as we discover our personal power and learn to live with clear intent and impeccability.²
The decision is yours to be a follower or a warrior both come with a price, and as a warrior you decide to follow a path designed by you, and that’s a huge difference than having your path decided by someone else’s vision of you.
“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive—the risk to be alive and express what we really are.”¹
1. Be impeccable with your word, to yourself and to others. Meaning that anything that you do which go against your inner beliefs is destructive to your integrity. Honor your commitment think before talking and follow through your promises no matter what.
2. Don’t take anything personally. the opinion of other people who don’t even have a good opinion of themselves! He tells us: “The approval of such men, who do not even stand well in their own eyes, has no value for him.”³ Know that noting that other people do as anything to do with you but with them, and only them.
3. Do not assume anything. Whatever it is you assume you think is true, you will swear it’s real. When making assumptions we don’t understand the reality then we take things personally ending up creating a big drama for nothing. Instead ask question, create a clear communication, and keep asking questions until you are as clear as can be.
4. Do your best and always do your best. I have adopted, words of my own creation, whatever I am involved in I repeat the phrase “I love what I do and I do it well” even those things that I deemed second class actions receive that same effort and concentration. I have discovered, using those words, that everything I do is important and need to be treated as such. It feels good and much is accomplished, the results are extremely satisfying. Even when “doing our best” does not bring perfect results, and we know that we did our best then it’s all good.
“The first step toward personal freedom is awareness. We need to be aware that we are not free in order to be free. We need to be aware of what the problem is in order to solve the problem.”¹
If you don’t like what is going on in your life, just ask the question “what do I want instead?” Answering that question will bring new vision and possibilities.
Lets brake domestication one step at the time.
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¹ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreement
²Carlos Castaneda
³ Marcus Aurelius

Who's to Blame