Asking... The right way

We’ve learned since childhood on how to ask first we should say “please” then we should say “thank you”, and that is quite simple enough, “please” and “thank you”. As we grow up we like to mess things up a bit and make things somewhat complicated and difficult. Perhaps just so that we can create some challenges in our life because we find that life itself has no challenge what so ever so we maturely are going to create some just to make things a bit more challenging and perhaps more interesting.

To make sure not to receive what we asked for and to ascertain our theory that nothing we try works we are going to emphasize a few point when performing the task of asking. We are going to complicate things some just to make sure we deserve to receive what we are asking for.

So first we are going to ask with the pretense that we are not going to receive it. It being whatever it is we are asking for.

Asking with doubt will certainly guaranty the non arrival of what we asked for and then we have reason to complain and blame everything outside of ourselves literally throwing the responsibilities somewhere else but where it belongs. By the way when we are complaining we are becoming a living breathing “Crap” magnet.

Next we are going to ask and then attend to the fact that we don’t really deserve what we are asking for or that we have to “do something” to deserve what we are asking for and here I am not taking about the passive way of being deliberately ignoring the opportunities that appear after we asked, I am talking about expected to give back or pay back or having to do something. Really the only one thing we need to perform is “gratitude” yes indeed that hard core function that create more good than we can even dream of “gratitude” and that’s the only *thing* we *need* to do to be able to receive in abundance.

The Universe, God, the Higher self whatever words you want to use here does not ask for anything to compensate for what we are receiving and for us raised in the Christian belief we know it has all being paid for lock stock and smoking barrels by Jesus the son of the most high and we have the full resources of that belief and relying on it makes perfect sense. Remember that one “whatever you ask in my name shall be given to you” (my paraphrase, I am not a bible scholar)

And then we want to “serve God” as if there is anything we can do here, let’s get real shall we?!? We just received an bran new grand baby girl and I in wonder of what is right here before my eyes from a single cell are arms, legs, feet, hands, a head with eyes and hears and the whole body completely perfectly formed with billions of cells all here for a purpose *LIFE* I am sorry to say I can’t do this. I am standing before a 500 years old first growth cedar, it takes 11 people to go around it arms extended I can’t do something like either, can you?!? How on heart can I be of service to God? Ho and by the way he is not expecting anything in exchange for the baby girl or for the three. Just for me to say thank you and enjoy it. So if I want to do something then I am going to be of service to my fellow women and men not too sure how good I am I’ll work at it with all my might and eventually I will be hearing the words” well done good and faithful servant enter now in my kingdom” And all is good.

And if you are confuse on how to ask get hold of me and together we can sort it out.

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What's in it for me?!?

What is in it for you in this life? What is it that you want more than anything else, that one thing you can dedicate your life to if and when you know what it is, what is it?
We hear a people complaining more often than hearing people sharing how great and fulfilled their life is. We hear you complaining about what is it that *you* don’t want, do *you* know what you want? Well perhaps you might want to take the time discovering what it is that you want instead of continuously complaining about what it is that you don’t want. And since you *know* what it is that you don’t want, just reverse the process live your life according to what it is that you want.
So what is it that you want?!? What is it that gets you to dedicate your life to and allow you to operate in a spirit of peace, joy, happiness and love, what is it that drives your spirit to the high point of perfection. That one thing you, and only you are so good at, that one thing that allow you to be fully alive and fully happy, what is it? Can you describe it, can you talk about it? Are you clear of where you are going, and if you are you eventually will end up there, simple and powerful, perhaps to simple…
If anything remember this “Work diligently. Diligently. Work patiently and persistently. Patiently and persistently. And you’re bound to be successful. Bound to be successful.” Know what you want go toward it and you are going to get there. When traveling from point A to point B if you continue traveling you will eventually get to point B. If doubt creeps in you will keep focused on the destination not the origin, the same applies here focus on your goal and you will get there.
So you’re not sure what your passion is, what is your purpose in life? Perhaps you don’t know and that’s fine but the sooner you find out the better things will fall in place for you. It is your job to find out why you are here for. Following that thought here is a small exercise for you to do to find out. Get pen and paper and write down the first thing that comes to your mind when asking the question “why am I here for.” Then ask the question again and without thinking or judging again, write the answer do that 20 times giving yourself a time limit of no more than 30 seconds to answer the question. When you are done look at the pattern that develop and now you have a very good idea why you are here for.
Now go toward your passion, it might mean some drastic changes taking place and that’s fine let it happen easily, effortlessly, thoughts will come and guide you toward your passion. People will appear in your life to assist you in your search it will all fall into place. Situation will develop pointing the right direction you just need to follow the signs and when darkness come it’s time to sick council and rest for a while, no panic just rest and enjoy the view.
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What's in it for me?!?

Why are You here?!?

That question should be asked of student the first day entering the first grade, this small exercise need to be the very first non graded exercise every child in every country should be subjected too. Why are you here, the first day of the beginning of each school term to start with answering that question, “why are you here” in this life, what is your purpose. Writing down the answer to that question, then answering it spontaneously, do it 20 times without thinking just write what comes to mind the very first thing indiscriminately. Check the answers and notice the pattern that arise and find out what is really at play right there right inside of you. Each student right through grade school every year the first day of school, to do that exercise and then continue on with college and university and even when preparing a resume for an interview.
When conducting an interview the first question I ask “why are you here for” and every time I received the same answer “for a job” or something similar. I then pause for a minute and ask again” no why are you really here for” in this life. And again I notice the blank look on the face of the person I interview. In my many years of interviewing candidates, very few caught on to the meaning. In truth we know why we are here for we just don’t think it is important to be fully conscious of it and I think we should be conscious of it and isn’t that the responsibility of educators, parents, teachers, church ministers, coaches, anyone involved in the education of children to bring to consciousness all that is needed for a child to perform at the top of his/her inner abilities? Many candidate that I interviewed for a job, when asked the question came to realize that this was not what they wanted to do for the rest of their life and instead went on to something else, something different and at time drastically different.
In his book The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire, Deepak Chopra wrote “Through synchrodestiny, you can finally become the person the universe intended you to be—as powerful as desire, as creative as spirit. All it takes is an eagerness to join the cosmic dance, and a willingness to seek the miracles of the soul.”
Are you willing? Give it a try and see what happen next, might just blow your socks off. Our limitation is caused by the fact that we are riddle with fears, fears instigated by the beliefs we created in our life, in response to situations that occurred through life. We choose to respond to what we observe and thus create beliefs according to how we feel in the moment. Those beliefs are responsible for how we respond and act today. It is time to correct the course of our beliefs and change the ones that are working against you.
Letting go of the formed beliefs can, at time, cause fears to creep in and fear can actually stop you dead in your track causing all kind set back one of them being procrastination, yes indeed procrastination is caused by fear of the unknown. The misery and short change we know, we are used to, is better than the unknown. Very powerful thing fear, and when facing the fears and challenging them will certainly bring about the discovery of possibilities. Quoting from past fear facing individuals we can find strength and encouragement in facing our own fears and staring them down to a manageable size.
Ralph Waldo Emerson tells us: “God will not have his work made manifest by cowards.” And pleads with us: “Always, always, always, always, always do what you are afraid to do ”assures us: “Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
Hafez says: “Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would like to see you living in better conditions.”
Paulo Coelho says this in The Alchemist: “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
Abraham Maslow (see Notes on Motivation and Personality): “It seems that the necessary thing to do is not to fear mistakes, to plunge in, to do the best that one can, hoping to learn enough from blunders to correct them eventually.”
The Roosevelts (first Eleanor then Franklin): “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” And: “The only thing to fear is fear itself.”
Frank Herbert (from Dune): “Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
Wallace Wattles, the author of The Science of Getting Rich says this in his great little book The Science of Being Great (see Notes): “You can never become a great man or woman until you have overcome anxiety, worry, and fear. It is impossible for an anxious person, a worried one, or a fearful one to perceive truth; all things are distorted and thrown out of their proper relations by such mental states, and those who are in them cannot read the thoughts of God.”
So face the fears, stare them down and act upon them and see how fast they disappear or at least shrink to a manageable size. What would you do if you were not afraid if you knew you could not fail? Then go do it.
You have a dream that dream was generated from somewhere deep down inside, just go back deep down and visit with your inner higher self, with God and discuss the dream and how to make it happen. Then answer is not out there but right inside of you reach in and find that answer that is waiting for you to unlock it and set free.
What have you go to lose? Or better yet, what have you got to gain?
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What do I want

What Do I Want?!?
The most “happy” question that one can ask him/her self, “what do I want?!? “ This is a gratitude question, a question that raises possibilities, that creates and open the doors to “anything can happen” attitude, it allow for energy flow and the birth of ideas, new plans, new goals. It rejuvenates and gives life.
What do I want, generate answers, and allow life to flow again, un-constricted, free of the feelings of failure, lack. That magical question brings feeling of empowerment, success and extinguishes the flame of victimization. No more feeling sorry for one self instead, head lifted high one is ready to conquer one’s life and be in charge, reaching deep down and finding the answer that allow the growth and development of one’s own desire.
When a complaint arises, it means that an unfulfilled desire is surging to the surface and like the world of dream speaks in the enigmatic language of the inner higher self, the language of God. Translating the message into everyday words demand for a little work, the “inner” work, something we are not use to do. Looking inside for the answer, learning to trust the inner voice of wisdom that gives proper direction, can be a real challenge. Regaining the use of intuition as a daily routine will allow for a deeper inner peace. The way of intuition is the way of translation of the messages from above, as we know it, but in reality the messages are not from “out there” but from within.
The practice of quiet time and meditation will allow the flow of images, feelings and emotions which are the language of the inner higher self. The interpretation of the messages happens suddenly, effortlessly through observation of natural laws. Plants don’t try to grow they just grow, rain don’t try to fall it just does. The earth itself is not trying to spin it does. We human have that extra gift, we can chose what we want, that what’s make us different than the rest of creation “free will.” We decide what we want, we are not bound by anything, only our own judgment and Universal laws.
Here is our choice at anytime we can decide to be a creator, a challenger or a coach or we can decide to be nothing. Our choice, our responsibility whatever we decide we want we can have it or do it, just need to practice a little and live the life we choose.
After the question is asked and the answer comes forth we can find that to achieve the goals we set we are going to need tools. In its infinite wisdom the God provide many tools that are available to us, just reach into the toll box and use the tools available. One of the tool I favor is “The One Command”, by accessing that part of our brain not used most of the time we have the ability to create anything we like, many discovery were made by accessing that part of the brain, and that’s the only difference between an average Joe and a genius, knowing how to access that part of us and discover its abilities. Getting in contact with the inner higher self will give us the power to create the life we want and or to change it at will. Sometime we do this unknowingly and we wonder at the results. Actually we can learn how to take control of those “by chance” time of short lived successes”, we can learn to have “luck” like we like to say. Luck is nothing more than a planned set of steps that leads to the realization of all and any enterprise.
Learning to access and make use of the hidden talents that reside within, become conscious of the inner higher self by using the One Command to ask for anything we wish to accomplish in our life. But first comes the question *what*do*I*want* it all start right here so what are you waiting for?
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What do I want

let's overdose....on Serotonin

Have you heard of Serotonin?!? It’s a drug and it causes a certain euphoria, it makes you feel good all over. And not like any other drug it is contagious; when you are under the effect of Serotonin people directly in contact with you will also feel good. The pharmaceutical use Serotonin in the preparation of those wonderful little anti-depressant. Serotonin also none has 5HT (5-hydroxytryptamine) has a positive effect on the nervous system, 80% of Serotonin produce by the brain is found in the abdominal tract and the nervous system. One of the effects is to regulate the mood, lack of it is the main cause of light depression and the abundance of it causes a well being and a certain euphoria, a lightness of attitude.
A rise in Serotonin in the blood stream causes a rise in self confidence, where by create a negative response to aggression. Serotonin is not degraded after use and it’s collected for further purposes. One of them to inhibit depression whenever needed. Serotonin is active in the process of healing off wounds and stop bleeding. Serotonin is, in part, produced in the Pineal gland known for over 400 years to be the seat of the Soul. Lack of Serotonin is the cause of aggression and impairment in responsibilities, and one most devastating disorder OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Behavior.
Serotonin helps maintain a "happy feeling," and seems to help keep our moods under control by helping with sleep, calming anxiety, and relieving depression. Other functions in the human body including the control of appetite, sleep, memory and learning, temperature regulation, mood, behaviour, cardiovascular function, muscle contraction, endocrine regulation and depression. Subsequent to his discovery of Serotonin, no physiological substance known possesses such diverse actions in the body as does serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter involved in the transmission of nerve impulses. Neurotransmitters are chemical messengers within the brain that allow the communication between nerve cells. Some of most effective way of raising serotonin levels is with exercise. Studies have shown that serotonin levels are increased with increased activity and the production of serotonin is increased for some days after the activity. This is the safest way of increasing serotonin levels and many other benefits result from regular exercise. Serotonin levels can also be controlled through the diet. A diet deficient in omega-3 fatty acids may lower brain levels of serotonin and cause depression. Complex carbohydrates raise the level of tryptophan in the brain resulting in a calming effect. Vitamin C is also required for the conversion of serotonin.
One of the most valuable exercises for the production of Serotonin and feeling good experience is the practice of the power of intention and the practice of acts of kindness. When you do something good for someone else, the recipient has Serotonin released in the nervous system and so do you. And even better people present witnessing the act of kindness also experience release of the wonder drug in their nervous system, creating happy feelings all around. The marvel of it all is that Serotonin is not depleted so when needed one can bring back the happy memory and create another burst of joy and well being. Creating a power of intention toward another person also causes the production of Serotonin, unknown to the person generating the intention is the result caused in the recipient, record of distance healing and many other reactions have been reported during scientific experiments.
Not only we become recipients of a kind action or word or even a kind thought, it is indeed a simple way to bring healing to the whole planet. So let practice the power of intention and acts of kindness and lets overdose on Serotonin shall we?
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Building from inside out

Where’s your motivation coming from? Are you doing everything you can to accumulate money, praise and toys? Well, that’s be external motivation. If that’s your PRIMARY motivation than you’re losing out on some opportunities for higher levels of creativity and performance.
“You must be the kind of man who can get things done. But to get things done, you must love the doing, not the secondary consequences.”¹
So what is that you love doing? Do that and let the external flow to you as a by-product of what you have passion for.
Money may not buy happiness but happiness may help you get rich.²
Total internal locus of control instead of external reverberation of looking for happiness in external motivations, is the most shift that can happen in one’s life, to bring to realization the most inner desire.
To extract from the higher self, to dig deep within searching for the “passion” in your life will bring the true reward, external “toys”, and by toys understand it is the description of anything you are looking for externally thinking that’s what is going to make you happy. External toys’ happiness last only for a short time, then you will need to find another one and another one until you realize the futility of “toy” collection.
Ask yourself the question “what is my purpose in life?” Take the time to pose and write down your thoughts, anything that comes up. Anything that you want to accomplish is first born as an idea, a picture, no matter what it is first it’s an inner desire. Than by itself bring more joy than the finish product. Creativity, is the mode of revelation of who you truly are let it not be wasted, remember that a desire not fulfilled will turn against you and burn from the inside out, different forms occur some of them like the over use of alcohol, drugs, compulsions, even medication and one of the latest product energy drinks, are guaranty to cause more damage than the plague of over 100 years ago. Looking for external stimulus is hiding from the inner thoughts that are waiting to be born. What is your purpose in life, what are you here for? And that’s where it’s start.
“Purpose also becomes a more powerful source of energy when it moves from being externally to internally motivated. Extrinsic motivation reflects the desire to get more of something that we don’t feel we have enough of: money, approval, social standing, power or even love. ‘Intrinsic’ motivation grows out of the desire to engage in an activity because we value it for the inherent satisfaction it provides. Researchers have long found that intrinsic motivation tends to prompt more sustaining energy. A study conducted by the University of Rochester’s Human Motivation Research Group found, for example, that people whose motivation was authentic—defined as ‘self-authored’—exhibited more interest, excitement and confidence, as well as greater persistence, creativity and performance than a control group of subjects who were motivated largely by external demands and rewards.”³
How about you, where is your motivation coming from? There is nothing wrong with the toys, the money but if that is your primary motivation, it is extrinsic, externally motivated. And you are losing out on opportunities for creation at a higher level.
The secret is to follow you heart, building your life from the inside out, doing what really matter to you and doing those things that create good feelings, with or without the possible rewards.¹
The big question, what is it that you like doing?
Take the time and review your inner guidance system, search for that inner driving force and let it out, you won’t regret it.
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¹ Ayn Rand
² Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
³ Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz The Power of Full Engagement.

Building from inside out

Lesson froma rat

I never thought I could learn a great life lesson by noticing how rats can outsmart me from getting caught n a trap.
In the manufacturing of soap we use shea butter, rats are attracted to shea butter, it’s candy to them. So I set up a “sticky trap” to catch the culprits. The next morning I go and check the trap and I can see that a rat was there but didn’t get caught, the trap was on the floor and foot print on the glue. The amazing thing is that rats stop coming all together, very smart refusing to partake in a libation of pure delight, for a rat, and choosing to live instead. Great lesson from a rat isn’t it?
How smart are we in avoiding tall the little traps that are constantly presented to us for the purpose of literally shortening our life? That one more drink that can get us in so much trouble. Or that extra bite of such delicious food that we are craving and can also cause trouble for our health. All those nasty little habits that we have and that we know are destructive to the way we want to live. By refraining from those habits and changing the way we act and do things, just like the rats, we decide what is best for us, the quick little reward that only last a few minutes or living to the fullest of our hidden abilities? It is a choice and it is up to us to decide what we want. Take a few minutes and write down 5 of those nasty little habits, what are you nibbling on right before the snap of the trap? The first step to change is awareness of the behaviors that can cause pain and suffering, so write the short list and then set up to change the habits.
By identifying those things that lead to suffering and changing the habits one then become aware of those things that lead to happiness and proceed by practicing those instead and refraining for the former. Adding to the list there is those habits of a non physical nature like judging and criticizing or worse holding grudges. Did you know that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hopping the other person will suffer from it or even dies? The things we choose for relief are actually working in opposite of what we are trying to accomplish.

The next step is to celebrate all the good occurrences in your life, first you will need to look for them to identify all those great things that take place in your life and soon your subconscious mind will filter and show you only the good things, so start now and make a list of 50 things you can be grateful for and rejoice with and for what you have already. Small things like hot shower and electricity, a roof over your head, food in your plate, acknowledge the good stuff and more of it will come to you. By focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want you will end up creating the life you are dreaming of. Celebrate today and be happy for no reason, Just because.
Are you ready for the next step? Have you decided what it is that you want? Are you ready to do what needs to be done to fulfilled your inner most dreams? Make a decision right now, today.
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Lesson froma rat